You don’t know how many people I meet who think they’ve got it all together – when in reality, their lives are a mess. But, hey, fake it ‘til you make it, right?
Not exactly.
You can’t keep going through the rest of your life with these problems and worries buried down inside you. That rent you’re having trouble making? That relationship that’s not going the way you wanted? Your boss, who doesn’t respect you? All these problems you’re facing are like a disease, hiding in your body and waiting to make you sick.
I talk about this problem in my book, The Messages We Carry.
I get it. I’m a trained counselor, and it still took me a lot of time, effort, and self-reflection before I got to the point where I became comfortable with opening up. I’m still unpacking all of the issues that stem from my dad dying when I was young and being taught to hide my emotions as a child. But that’s why I can tell you firsthand that the effort you put into this is worth it because I’ve experienced the benefits myself.
I don’t care if you’re a wealthy businessman or you’re working an hourly job for minimum wage: bro, you must talk to someone. Preferably a trained counselor or therapist, but even talking through your problems with a friend can help ease the burden.
Because guess what, bro? Therapy isn’t just for rich people. It would help if you talked to someone. Here are some ideas to get you started on talking about the deep issues with your friends:
Can I be real with you about a situation I’m dealing with?
All jokes aside, I want to talk to you about something.
I’m going through a tough time right now. Can I get your advice?
This isn’t easy for me to talk about. I need to share something with you.
I’m really struggling and need some help.
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